Opposites attack.
Anger and resentment thow up a road block, but a listening ear opens up a six-lane highway.
When one wants what the other wants then both are likely to keep wanting.
If you are the knife that hurts, then can you cannot be the ointment that heals.
Conflict is normal; what makes it dangerous is hostility.
“I apologize, but …” isn’t an apology.
A high motivation claimed does not justify a low blow delivered.
Subjection and domination is how you ruin an egalitarian relationship.
The volcano you consider to be your inspiring front yard view wakes up and drives you from your home, so too, relationships morph.
What may never be resolved may still be forgiven.
Too much silence or too many words — both may lead to sharp conflict.
Samuel Butler has said that, “Man is the only animal that can remain on friendly terms with the victims he intends to eat until he eats them.” One feeds the chickens until one day — boom. Get out the crock pot, “I love my chicken falling off the bone.” And in a like manner, one man feeds the psyche of another man, until, one day, bam. “Strike three! You’re out!”
A quiet moment of reflection can calm a raging heart and still a violent tongue.
Are you offended unresolvably? Then do this: Right now run as hard as you can straight through the open door of the renewing future, super-charged by the nuclear energy derived from the melting core of your past debacles.
If you sin against someone, you lose more than you might imagine. It may render you incapable of soothing and restoring them. To come close may only seem to threaten more injury.
It is entirely possible to apologize for something and leave your main offense completely untouched. This is one of the common forms of self-righteous deception.
A difficult in-law is not a problem to be solved but a person to be loved.
Few leaders understand the art of mediation; when they oversee a conflict, one person wins and the other loses.
When it comes to conflict, dosage matters. The longer and higher the dose, the more time it takes to recover.
